Things associated with women – part 2 // On matters – feminism

Things associated with women – part 2 // On matters – feminism

Hi everybody

After a bit of a leave I am back again with the second part of my series on how I encountered stereotypes laid on women by society – and then mostly, by men.

I once was told by a guy that my clothes don’t flatter me.

This was of course pretty upsetting to hear, because as a person you dress to express yourself – whether you have a comfortable or ladylike style, you spread a message. I, at the time, was wearing a jeans, a floral blouse by Zara and I believe my cognac colour winter shoes. The comment was mostly targetting the blouse, which I actually really adored. I had bought it while shopping with one of my dearest friends and we both agreed it looked super on me. My question thus is: why does someone express his opinion about how you dress so openly?


The mentioned floral blouse

Well, I think there is a lot behind that expression of saying that something doesn’t flatter another. Firstly, I think that our society is flattening out when it comes to fashion style. A lot of us just wear what’s trendy for the season. Not that that is a wrong thing to do, necessarily, but I sensed that a whole bunch of people younger than me – I’m 19 – all look the same; ripped jeans, white Adidas Stan Smith sneakers, girly blouses/ t shirts, long hair; mostly centre-parted, no frizz, no curls. So in comparison to that, I’m almost the reverse; curls, often frizz, no centre part (I even braid my hair when it’s damp and so I go out and about with a braid and actually like it), no white sneakers: mostly leather, classic shoes and girly blouses… well, let’s say that depends on the mood πŸ˜‰ .

To make a long story short, I’m just afraid that in a while there will be no space left for individual style and that in order to be ‘accepted’, you will have to dress a certain way and wear what everybody else wears in order to be thought ‘beautiful’. This to me is devastating and shocking at once!

When I was 12 years and just starting high school, I was by far the most classically dressed: I had to moan to get my first pair of sneakers, beg for the kind of sweaters my class mates wore. I wore classic shoes, wide trousers – not even jeans – and almost old-fashioned jumpers. I had little friends at that age, while I am actually quite good at conversing with others, but at that time apparently not with youngsters. I had to wait until I turned 14 and started senior secondary education to find that atmosphere that allowed myself to be me. So now, I hardly wear those hoodies – I stuck with the converse, however πŸ˜‰ – and just wear what I like, no matter what others think. I thought that that space of acceptance was normal, as your class mates and you including age and become more mature. I hadn’t expected that university would reverse that – I think positive – evolution of accepting others’ expressions through fashion. Now I’m sort of rebounced to the position I had when I was 12: not found interesting enough by ‘the popular bunch’. Not that I really mind, but for people who can’t brush that off their sleeves, there might be a problem. That worries me: that through time, there will be more outcasts, just for not agreeing with the general idea of fashion.


My beloved Converse All Stars – going strong for two years already!


<above: a few of my favourite things>


Secondly, what you like on yourself and on others. We all know that our best friends give us fashion advice when going shopping and that’s marvellous because it shows that that person cares about you and wants you to feel good in your clothes – which is utterly important for self esteem, I believe. But some people want that everyone follows their opinion about fashion and appearance. The previously mentioned guy also said that if I dressed differently, boys would surely like / gaze at me more. (If you read my previous post on this subject, you will know that that gives me the chills.) Why dress for someone else? Why change your style to become more popular? This is the true opposite of all I believe in. When it comes to your appearance, you must dress for one person only: you. Wear what makes you feel beautiful, self-confident. It’s utterly important and I myself have underestimated this fact for a long time.

Below: some of my most adored pieces of clothing, all for different reasons; vintage bag I got from my Mum, a long British style raincoat which I own since I was 16, a striped wool dress (so comfy in autumn / winter) and a washed off jeans jacket, bought with a huge discount in sales!



So, I want to make a plea to wear what you like and don’t let anyone get to you. What you wear is a visual expression of who you are. If you like pointy shoes – like me – wear them. If you like jelly pink raincoats: wear them. Nolite te bastardes carborundum.





Charlotte xx

PS: I did not make any earnings from this post. Just to be clear, since I mention some brands πŸ™‚



Things associated with women – part 1 // On matters – Feminism

Things associated with women – part 1 // On matters – Feminism

Hi everyone

After a year in uni, a lot has happened. I have learned and experienced a lot and there’s something that frequently struck my mind. It was the fact that there is still a stereotypical view on women, mostly imposed by men. I have never felt this so clearly, not even in secondary school.

This will be part one of a mini-series I’ll write on my blog. This idea has been playing on my mind a lot and I finally sat down to write about it. If you sort of get lost in why this is about feminism, I put this under that tag because this series discusses the mindset of society expecting certain things of women, just because they are women. This article will discuss the first topic: make-up.

“You don’t wear make-up”

No, I (nearly) don’t. Mostly I just wear mascara and some concealer on pimples if I have them (and really are fluorescent red), sometimes BB cream on myΒ  nose – the dermatologist says that I have more veins in my skin there and it often shows super red, so I cover it up just a little bit, but only if I think it really necessary. I prefer to just let it “open” so that my skin can breathe. When I’m feeling up for it, I’ll wear brown eye pencil (by Rituals, post on that following later) which is really subtle. Apparently, I am to sort of “update” how I look, so that other people (read: boys) find me more attractive.


But why is that? I’m just a person like anyone else. I don’t really mind being thought of as ‘non-attractive’, because my judgment of others will mostly be based on what I think of you as a person, not on how they look. (But you’re a friend of mine and if you mistreat your body, I’ll speak my mind.) Am I so naive in expecting people to treat me likewise?

For the record, I do like make-up. I really do, but not to put on my face every day. I’m going to uni to study and of course I don’t walk in my pyjamas or go to class still with my hair in its braid (I braid my hair for sleeping to tame my curly hair, so you can imagine what it looks like when I wake up πŸ˜‰ ) but it’s not Paris fashion week!

When I go out I do like to put on eyeshadow, a bit of blush / highlighter and lipstick because for that one night that I have this event, I like, you know, feeling “fancy”. Putting on subtle make-up which enhances my features is fun on nights like this! I never go overboard. It just makes me happy πŸ™‚


Another thing is that I got sort of critized over which brands of make-up I used. (The phrase was something like this (on the nose subject): “You have to go to this brand X, they have super good products which will look good on you. The ones you use now are not as good as these, it doesn’t cover up well- etc etc…”) I have to pay for my beauty products myself so I think every purchase over. It’s nice that people want to help you in finding good products, but this sounded like a judgment, when I look back on it. Because that person insisted that I should cover the redness and praised other girls wearing make-up by that brand and thought they looked beautiful. It made me feel like I was ugly with my pink-to-red-toned nose, but it’s just another part of my body. It just happens to have a lot of veins and after several years I have come to the point that I no longer mind. And I will decide when and if I want to cover it up.

#positivity #nomakeup


If you too have thoughts on this subject, you can always leave them in the comments, I love to read them!



*PS1: I seldom share photos of myself and I hope you all understand. I’m still doubting whether I’ll post pictures of myself on the blog. If someone has tips / ideas about that, let me know! πŸ˜€

*PS2: Post not sponsored in any way (in case you wondered as it features some brand products πŸ™‚ )